Sunday, August 9, 2009

It's all in the family...

My sweet husband found this old picture of me over the weekend while I was away with my Mom, sis, and Aunt (Ben and Reider had their first weekend "alone"...props to the best husband in the world!)...  He was so excited to show me when I got home this evening - it, AGAIN, confirmed how perfectly God knits together families in all different ways.  

A little background first...  when Ben and I were called to adopt, we found out that there were many different paths we could take...even as specific as what skin color, hair color, gender, etc you desired your child to be.  After some prayer, we felt that we didn't need to be too specific in what "we" wanted because we knew the Lord would bring us together with THE baby that He had created specifically for our family.  

Well, when we were matched only 7 short weeks later - we were thrilled to find out that we were having a baby boy who was half Hispanic!  In our heads, that meant that Reid would most likely look a little bit different from us, so we began buying up and reading every book we could find (in the short 9 days that we had before his due date) on transracial adoption... how you explain a skin color difference to your children... learning how to Biblically field those inevitable questions that they (or others) might have... etc.  We could have cared less about what this precious baby looked like, but wanted to feel as prepared as possible to raise our child with the healthiest view of adoption as possible.

Here is what we weren't prepared for which COMPLETELY blows my mind... My mom and dad have commented many, many times about how much Reid looks like me when I was younger - same eyes, nose, smile, etc... but I don't think I truly believed it until tonight.

Holly @ 6 months old

Reid @ 6 months old


WOW!  I keep going back to compare all of my pictures, and it truly is incredible to me!  Not that all of our research on transracial adoption was in vein - only the Lord knows what He has in store for us in regards to future children - but this just showed me how trivial the things are that we think we need to worry about and "prepare" for.  Every last detail truly is in our Maker's hands.  We can't imagine our lives without Michael Reid - we love you so much, little man!

"For You created my inmost being; You knit me together in my mother's womb.  I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Your works are wonderful, I know that full well." Psalm 139: 12-14

13 comments:

Jaime said...

Okay, HE's precious...your story is soooo sweet and awesome BUT I get a little "x" where your baby pic is supposed to be. I'm going to go look on another computer tomorrow! I can't wait to see. That's really cool, Holly and again, from his pic that I can view he's just gorgeous!

Beth Goff said...

That's so amazing! Yall do look so much alike! God is so good!

Dave and Tara Harris said...

That is too cool!!!! I have always thought he looked just like you through the pictures you post!!! My little cousin was also adopted and he looks more like my aunt and uncle than their biological daughter! It's very wierd, but it is like you said, God knows what he is doing and He is soooo awesome! :)

Jennifer Wells said...

That is so incredible. Before time began - you were meant to be his mommy! I love that. How precious of the Lord.

Steve, Tracy, Wesley & Reeve said...

Holly, you were always meant to be Reid's mom, so it just makes sense that he looks like you too! I LOVE it! Thanks for sharing that sweet story. We love you guys! Glad you had a fun weekend away with the girls.

Molly said...

Okay, so funny about how much you two look alike! I remember reading a ton on hair care before we got Owen and one day Blake asked me, "Are you going to be okay if we get a white baby?" HA! God new what was coming our way and how to prepare our hearts though!

We don't have similar baby pictures, but I am amazed at how much our oldest is just like his daddy. It's unreal. I can't wait for you all to see Reid act like you and Ben. It's also fun to find things that they got from their birth parents and remind them of it...just a neat way to celebrate their adoption.

Love your family!

Life with the Kadanes said...

That is AMAZING!!

Lauren said...

Holly, I've been following your blog (found you from the Kadane's) as we are in similar circumstances. We are trying to adopt and excited about it. It's been so neat to follow your story and see you guys become a family. Keep up the great posting!

Jennifer said...

that's awesome! reid is adorable!! what an amazing story you have to pass on to him one day! god truly does work all things out for our good! so happy for you!
jennifer

Amanda said...

I thought he resembled you now, but to look at you then -- WOW!! So amazing! You're absolutely right -- God had the perfect child in mind for your sweet family.

martha said...

I'm in tears. I have no words. I love your family.

EstherRD said...

I marvel at God's goodness to you! Wow, I am praising him for you today!!!!
This is incredible Holly! :)

Crystal D. said...

Love this post, Holly. Sometimes I think the Lord is just chuckling at us and our inability to wrap our mind around how powerful He is. My best friend in HS was adopted by her "dad" (I didn't even know until we went to college together), she too is half Hispanic and everyone always made comments about how she looked so much like him, when her mom was actual biological. It was their little secret and they would just laugh about it to each other. I also have a post on my blog right now ... a mommy and me session. That little baby was also adopted about 8 months ago and I'd say that she and her "mommy" look so much alike. In fact, once I finally said something (because I didn't know if it would be weird), Lisa (the mom) said I was wondering when you'd finally say something! Little Reid is just adorable! ah, I want to squeeze him :)